Once upon a time, getting older was actually exciting.
When you were seven years old, you wanted to ‘grow up’, wishing that you could one day become a doctor, fire-fighter, FBI agent, or even a superhero.
At sixteen, you were able to get your Learners. At 18, not only were you at uni, studying for the career of your dreams – but you were out clubbing on weekends and drinking till you drop. And finally, you officially stepped out into the real world at the age of 21, ready to take on the world.
And before you know it, you hit that stage where you want to stop time, and stop ‘growing up’.
For many people, they worry (and complain tirelessly) about physically-aging the most e.g. white hair and getting wrinkles. For others, the aging process makes them feel mentally insecure about themselves.
You read people’s blogs and they talk about chasing their ambitions, travelling to exquisite places and meeting interesting people – It’s impossible not to envy them. The same thing happens when you hear people’s success stories—either those that are the same age as you, or those that are perhaps younger than you. Former Disney star Miley Cyrus, for instance, hasn’t even reached adulthood, and she’s accomplished so much and is worth over a billion dollars.
Suddenly the notion of ‘aging’ starts to really sink in. You begin to have a life crisis, analysing and comparing your life with others:
Where is my life going? Why are things not working out for me? What are my achievements? Have I actually accomplished anything? Why aren’t I in a steady relationship? Is there anything that I haven’t done yet? Is it too late?
The list goes on and on.
Because we tend to get so caught up with the ‘vital’ things in our lives (such as studying a degree to get a job, or working for money) — we always end up forgetting how to make ourselves truly happy, and how to enjoy life and fulfil our ambitions.
Here are some common-sense tips:
If you hate your job, find something you love. If you want to travel, then travel. If you want to find love, find love.
Engage in activities that are not normally in your planner. Be a daredevil by challenging yourself in foreign things e.g. skydiving or backpacking across Europe.
You can still be a superhero by making someone happy e.g. help out a charity, or talk to someone who needs help or companionship. Even smiling or giving someone a hug counts as something.
If you didn’t have a fulfilling childhood when you were young, revive it. Who says you can’t act like a kid, or be interested in kids’ stuff in your twenties or even forties?
In terms of achieving ambitions, think of the things you’re passionate about or have always wanted to do in life. Depending on your chosen pathway –if you create realistic opportunities and options, and work passionately towards it, then the rest will fall into place.
You’re never too old to take control of your life, and do whatever you want. When things come up, don’t hesitate or say ‘no’. Say: “Why not?” It actually makes a big difference, as every little action counts as an achievement.
Sure, wrinkles and white hair are depressing– but if you have endless arguments about being ‘too old’ or ‘too late’ to do it, how are you supposed to enjoy life?
So remember, it’s not about the number of years in a life, but it’s the life in the years that counts the most.